When it comes to enjoying your sex life, giving her an orgasm is absolutely necessary, but what’s best is if it lasts for one full minute.
Yes, the 60-second climax really exists, according to Emily Nagoski, Ph.D., author of Come As You Are: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life.
It’s not typical—the female orgasm usually lasts 6 to 30 seconds. But if her mood and your moves are right, her climax can keep going, says Nagoski to MensHealth.
Make it happen with these six easy strategies:
- Give your bedroom a hotel room looks:
If she is relaxed and her focus is on pleasure then she will easily get orgasm. The more you turn her on the better are the chances of her having a long and intense climax. Start you session by setting her mood.
If she’s keyed up after a stressful day, give her a back massage to ease her into a more laid-back state. Turn off your cell phones, lock your doors, hit the lights, and put on the slow jams: Music and candlelight will help calm her central nervous system, says licensed marriage and sex therapist Kat Van Kirk, Ph.D. to Menshealth.
- Compliment her:
If she feels less about herself, she will never enjoy you making love to her. Insecurity often distracts her and hence she isn’t able to experience the pleasure.
But if you make her feel that she is smoking hot and she can easily turn you on. She will be more aroused and her focus will be on your amazing sex session. This can help her experience deeper orgasms.
Be expressive, show her what she does to you: Pull her towards you and tell her how beautiful you think her body is, how you keep thinking about running your hand through her smooth skin. How you want to kiss her and caress her body.
When she strips for you, stare at her and just a “wow” from you will drive her crazy.
- At times talk dirty:
Sometimes talking dirty does half of the work, doing so keeps her attention focused on what’s about to come next. If you know what turns her on, speak that.
Otherwise, you can start by telling her how you like the feel of her naked skin against your, the warmth of it. How you love making her wet. At times be dominating in bed, she likes it. Command her about what to do, some women love it.
- Tease her:
Bringing her to the brink of orgasm repeatedly will cause her arousal to spread throughout her body—resulting in a bigger, longer climax when she finally peaks, says Nagoski.
If you know oral does the work, go down. Start your work gently and be slow, see how she responses and as she gets close to orgasm, she will begin panting faster and you may be able to feel growing tension in her abs, thighs, and butt.
Experts say to MensHealth, that when you notice those signs, dial your speed and pressure back. Her breathing should slow. Then coax her back up to the brink, and slow it down again. Oscillate back and forth five times if you can, bringing her closer to the peak each time. Then let her have her big finish.
- Cover all your bases:
At times working multiple sex acts into one session can help prolong orgasm. This is because variation in what you do creates more intense environment. Start with oral, explore all her erogenous territories: her nipples, clitoris, vagina, G-spot, and even her anus if she’s into it.
When you both are ready for penetration, let her come on top of you. Let her ride you. Rubbing her clitoris as she rides you will be a bonus.
- Back off just a little:
When some women are on the brink of orgasm, their clitorises become very sensitive. If that’s the case, stimulating her more gently may help her maintain her climax for longer, says Van Kirk.
Before you back off, find out if she wants you to ease up or not, ask her softly kissing her earlobe, if she likes it hard or gentle. Or simple ask her to direct you